Lauren Fleshman’s memoir, Good for a Lady: A Lady Operating in a Man’s World, is a memoir and a critique of how the sports activities world treats feminine athletes.
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Lauren Fleshman’s memoir, Good for a Lady: A Lady Operating in a Man’s World, is a memoir and a critique of how the sports activities world treats feminine athletes.
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Champion distance runner Lauren Fleshman nonetheless remembers the primary time she misplaced a race to a boy. She was in center college, and had developed a popularity because the quickest total runner, the one who persistently received the mile. Till at some point, she wasn’t quickest.
“Once I first received beat by one in every of my male friends … it was as a result of he hit puberty and form of skyrocketed his efficiency within the mile in a really quick time frame,” she says. “It was very disorienting to search out out that puberty was going to create two totally different paths for my male friends and my feminine friends, and that I used to be on the one which I wasn’t so certain I wished to be on.”
Rising up in what she calls the “woman energy revolution of the ’90s,” Fleshman had been led to consider that she might do something that her male friends might do. However as an athlete, puberty hit onerous. She describes getting her interval as an obstacle, an “added burden that my male friends did not should take care of.” The event of breasts and hips, she says, felt “scary, like they threatened the long run that I wished in sport.”
However, Fleshman went on to have a really profitable working profession, breaking the American junior document within the 5,000 meters race the primary time she ran it, which certified her for the Olympic trials. She was a five-time NCAA champion at Stanford College, and later, as an expert athlete, she received two nationwide championships.
However, alongside the way in which, she seen a stunning variety of her feminine teammates leaving the game. Many who did keep it up developed consuming problems or different bodily or psychological well being issues. Fleshman says too many coaches appeared to imagine — falsely — that what labored for male our bodies would additionally profit feminine our bodies.
“The male physique, between 18 and 22, is getting extra juice out of each squeeze in relation to coaching. Their hormonal profile is such that their restoration time is faster,” she says. In the meantime, Fleshman notes, enchancment instances for feminine runners are likely to decelerate between those self same ages.

“That is the place plenty of rigidity is created for feminine athletes round their physique,” Fleshman says. “There is a primary stage of training that coaches have to get, not simply in physiology, but in addition in understanding socially what they’re doing, culturally, the setting they’re creating, that’s working in opposition to their targets of getting a wholesome, constant group that performs at their greatest.”
Fleshman turned a coach and is now an activist working to advertise fairness in sports activities by recognizing the variations in female and male our bodies. Her new ebook, Good for a Lady: A Lady Operating in a Man’s World, is a memoir and a critique of how the sports activities world treats feminine athletes.
Interview highlights
On why she loves working
I beloved working the way in which plenty of little youngsters do, once they would simply burst into run naturally. It felt like flying. It felt like freedom. … I joined [the team] in highschool, and by then what it meant to me was belonging, exploring. We might take off on these runs as a bunch into the foothills round our city and get to see vistas of my city from a brand new perspective, get to discover totally different neighborhoods. My world received loads larger by the game of working. And I additionally beloved that whenever you run alongside anyone, you’ll be able to have a extra weak, trustworthy dialog than you’ll be able to whenever you’re sitting throughout the desk from each other. There’s one thing that simply opens you up with the motion. And so I simply developed these deep bonds and in addition these deeper understandings of myself. It simply felt like a pure match.
On how menstruation is commonly invisible and considered negatively
Once I received my interval, it was later than most of my friends, it was round age 17 and I did not need it. … It felt like one thing I needed to navigate alone, and the consequences that it might have on my temper or my physique composition, bloating, all these issues felt like this curler coaster that I needed to navigate … and my male friends did not. And I felt resentful of that, particularly because it was invisible to my coaches and to the well being professionals round me. It was form of like, “Oh, simply determine methods to take care of it.” So it is comprehensible why so many women do not have a optimistic view of their interval, which is actually unlucky, as a result of our menstrual cycle is so vital to the wholesome functioning of our our bodies.
On how breast improvement in women impacts their participation in sports activities
All the analysis presently reveals that that is extraordinarily widespread, it extends effectively past runners. Seventy-three p.c of women reported at the very least one breast-related concern associated to sports activities in middle-school age, and half of them felt that breasts affected their participation. However the way in which that we discuss breasts could be very sexualized or we do not discuss them. They’re somewhat little bit of a tricky topic once they actually ought to simply be a factual, primary lived expertise of half the inhabitants. Eighty-seven p.c of women wished to know extra about breasts and sports activities bras particularly. So we all know that the dearth of sports activities bras is without doubt one of the explanation why we’re shedding women in sport.
On teaching methods associated to weight which can be damaging
One of the widespread ones is simply having an “best” athlete physique in thoughts that you just anticipate your group to work their approach towards. When you think about the entire range in our genetics and our individuality, that is an absurd thought that everybody ought to mildew themselves into some specific mannequin. There are public weigh-ins that occur usually in packages, or body-fat checks constant sufficient to have athletes turn out to be fixated on it. Athletes are given very small ranges of acceptable physique fats for an elite athlete which can be based mostly on 28-year-old Olympian our bodies and never 20-year-old adolescent our bodies which can be within the thick of growing.

There’s additionally meals policing — the place coaches, is not going to enable sure kinds of meals for his or her athletes. They may make physique feedback on athletes in entrance of their teammates. One other factor they will do is level out when somebody appears “match” and provides plenty of private consideration to athletes that attain this physique best after which withhold optimistic interplay from athletes that do not. And people are refined methods of persistently telling athletes that as a way to be invested in and cared about, they have to change who they’re. And it isn’t even based mostly on actual science. That is the factor. It could be unsuitable even when it was, as a result of it creates such an unhealthy setting for athletes.
On each acknowledging sex-based variations in sports activities whereas additionally being inclusive of transgender athletes
It is clearly a really contentious, difficult difficulty that we’re wrestling with in tradition proper now. And I’ve developed my perspective loads on this topic from a spot of defensiveness of what I seen as girls’s sports activities from a sex-based perspective to being very pro-inclusion of trans athletes in each side of life, together with sports activities. However that took somewhat little bit of a journey as a result of I’m so aware of sex-based variations in sport. I’ve lived it. I’ve watched it. They exist — to have some trans-rights activists on this house denying that these exist, or being afraid of taking a look at that science or seeking to debunk it created plenty of resistance to me, and I see it in plenty of the athletes that I’ve raced in opposition to over time. It is a factor that we’ve got to acknowledge — that sex-based distinction exists and maintain that in a single hand and maintain within the different hand that inclusion is extraordinarily necessary and that our definition of equity is so slim.
I believe that is really vital to the inclusion of trans folks — not denying the science that we all know, not denying the lived experiences of feminine bodied folks, however simply deciding that even given a few of these issues, we nonetheless select to compete collectively to be an inclusive house and expertise all the advantages of getting trans folks on our groups, in our lives and competing alongside us.
If we’re solely taking a look at equity as who’s competing within the Olympic Video games and who has skilled what sort of puberty and no matter, you are able to do that if you wish to. You’ll be able to spend all of your time centered on that, however equity is about much more than that. And we will maintain the intercourse, these variations and nonetheless be for inclusion. And I believe that is really vital to the inclusion of trans folks –not denying the science that we all know, not denying the lived experiences of female-bodied folks, however simply deciding that even given a few of these issues, we nonetheless select to compete collectively to be an inclusive house and expertise all the advantages of getting trans folks on our groups in our lives and competing alongside us.
On girls’s working uniforms
Male runners usually put on looser becoming shorts and a jersey that covers your complete torso. In some occasions in working, particularly the sooner dash occasions, the male outfit might be a decent becoming shirt that additionally covers the torso. Feminine athlete uniforms are like somewhat bathing go well with backside that your butt cheeks hang around of or a really, very quick quick that they name cheeky bottoms or one thing like that. After which a crop prime that exposes your midriff, that is additionally type becoming and tight.
If there was a real sports activities benefit to carrying the outfit that feminine athletes are certain, by guidelines even, to put on in sport, male athletes would do it, too. The most effective athletes on this planet will need to do what the most important efficiency benefit is. The historical past of feminine uniforms being designed as they’re now began within the wake of Title IX, when there was plenty of concern that sports activities was masculinizing women, that it was making them homosexual — all of those homophobic fears round collaborating in actions that have been historically seen as males’s areas.
On refusing to be bare for a Nike advert marketing campaign — and as an alternative utilizing the advert to touch upon objectification of feminine athletes
My first huge shot at an advert marketing campaign with Nike, I used to be so excited. I simply could not consider that I used to be going to get this opportunity for use in a industrial and poster marketing campaign, media discover round it. However then after I received the appear and feel from the inventive company, it was an image of Brandi Chastain, the soccer participant, from an previous advert the place she was bent over bare with a soccer ball. It was very provocative. … And I simply felt crestfallen after I noticed that. … [Just like] being in Playboy journal as a feminine athlete was form of an indication you have made it, or being on the quilt of one other journal depicted in a robe or lingerie or feminized in a roundabout way. And I simply thought, why are we doing this? Why? That has nothing to do with the excellence that received you the chance within the first place. And so I received the braveness to ask them to do it otherwise, to not be depicted in that approach.
I got here up with an advert the place I used to be standing in my working garments that I prepare in day by day with my arms crossed, wanting straight on the digital camera. And the advert was within the first individual voice, so I used to be very a lot in charge of how I used to be being seen and which added plenty of energy to the advert, and it made it a really profitable marketing campaign. … [The caption was] “objectify me,” … and it was meant to form of seize your consideration. … After which beneath it was the effective print of, “We examine the feminine physique in order that we will make them one of the best trainers.”
Sam Briger and Seth Kelley produced and edited this interview for broadcast. Bridget Bentz, Molly Seavy-Nesper and Deborah Franklin tailored it for the online.